#BLACKLOVE Appreciation + (Belated) National Boyfriend Day

Black love is the ideal of unity and togetherness. It’s this ideal of strength shared between two people attempting to reach a common goal…

~So What Exactly Is “Black Love” | Panama Jackson

Hi friends old and new!

Happy Thursday. I hope you’re well <3

Monday was National Boyfriend Day. It was also my beau’s birthday.  WHATTTTT!!!!!
So now I know when it is and lucky for me, I’m already celebrating his existence on October 3. ^.^

So I thought a quick “my boyfriend’s better than yours” post is appropriate this week. 😸✨

But while I am doing nothing short of praising my beau, this ENTIRE post, I’d like to share a quick thought about celebrating black love.

✨#BlackLove | Small Acts of Appreciation

As I was reading about National Boyfriend Day, this stood out ~

You know who doesn’t get enough recognition? Boyfriends. There’s a Wives Day, a Girlfriends Day, a Mother’s Day, a Woman’s Day, but none of these represent the wonderful person who puts up with you day by day, your boyfriend.

Now with that thought insert black. Get it?!

a walk in the park with Crank

Ok. Here goes … to be frank, I don’t think our black men get nearly as much praise as they should. And I think that praise is even more important if they are capable of lovingly supporting a colorful piece of work such as a strong black woman, or an African-American alpha woman in general.

I think as women it’s easy to become self-absorbed – with ourselves, life, our own crazy,independence, doing it our own way, etc., often forgetting to reciprocate our appreciation for our significant other. Which can easily be mistaken as taking him/ his love/ his being for granted.

I know, for sure, I get caught up in my own crazy & forget allllll the time. >.<

So as for me and our black love, I try to practice small acts of appreciation like saying thank you (LITERALLY voicing it), trading a couple of hours work for a few hours with him (I’m a workaholic), putting my phone up so he has most of my attention, or even cleaning the cat’s litter box (it’s usually his job).

✨Celebrating Crank (& Ichini)

I’ll make you laugh quickly.

Crank and I made an official connection when I asked him to be my movie date for a Doctor Who feature.

He replied that he was more of a Star Wars guy but he was game. ^^ He also suggested a “first date” since the movie was some time away.

Some weeks later a cynical conversation of not wanting to like each other, having given up on relationships, and settling into our destinies of being alone with art happened …

And that’s the start to Crank & Ichini.

Enjoy our abbreviated story. <3


When you love a man, he becomes more than a body. His physical limbs expand, and his outline recedes, vanishes. He is rich and sweet and right. He is part of the world, the atmosphere, the blue sky and the blue water.

~Gwendolyn Brooks, Poet

Meet CRANK! Artist, lover, friend, and … glow-worm 😀
we had a pre-date to our first date … (cuz we’re weird like that)
our first date was to see Crank’s favorite rapper, Blu … he was shocked to know that I was a fan

His & Hers Favorite Albums

His – Her Favorite Colo(u)r, 2010 | Hers – Below the Heavens, 2007

Shout out to Blu for making our first date EVERYTHING! <3


then we REALLY started communicating ^^ (through art!)
and that’s when he got my heart <3

I introduced him to my world through NYC’s first Harajuku Fashion Walk … because dating while kawaii is HARD! (fight or flight baby!)
yay/ boo moment: he wasn’t phased & stayed (yyaaayyy!!) … and then I left for Japan for three months (booooo)

I returned and then … more dates!

and goofiness and good times LOL


OUR cynical outlooks on life &  communication started growing stronger, together 😹😹😹

and then we started making babies …



Girlfriend/ Boyfriend Art Babies! ^^


that even other couples love *heehee*
that even other couples love *heehee*
small things like that encourage us to creatively give thanks ^^
crank x ichini mood swings LOL


It’s pretty empowering to have such an opportunity as sharing my life, space, and dreams with someone who’s down with me being unapologetically ME! Why would that not deserve praise?

I’m thankful for Crank every day, whether I voice it or not.

All in all, it’s been an AMAZING journey! Two broken people from broken homes, with a lot of work to do on our selves. BUT here we are two years later and we are committed to experiencing a HAPPY & HEALTHY relationship and growing old … together.

Dearest beautiful black sisters, this #blacklove thing … you gotta try it! <3


Let’s keep in Touch!


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